Have you ever had a situation where you became mad at a person, if not irate, because you believed they needed to respond to something in a particular way, when in fact it was you that needed to take that step, and trust God?
I literally had someone tell me today that I should marry someone who will pastor a church, instead of trying to do it myself. Are you serious? Why?
I know all about “headship”, and men “leading” and what not. The only issue is that more the most part, in today’s world, I don’t buy it. I don’t think life, marriage, and faith is that simple. And if God puts a calling on my life, even if it’s not that, you better be darn sure it will be me following it and not whatever guy I’m looking to to live my life for me. What exactly is the point in that?
How about if two people get married, they support one another’s lives and callings in synchrony? Why do we care to set precedents of who is in control before people even get to know one another? It’s freaking maddening. At this rate I’ll never get married or date, end up “alone”, and be the happiest son if a gun that’s ever lived for it. Dating is such a mess in the first place, let alone without creating such dramatic rifts between reality under sin and fantastical representations of what perfection would look like. My life is broken here in the earth, and if someone were to ever date me, he’d have to be able to meet me here. Ridiculous.
I just don’t get why mythical women who don’t want as much are preferable to women who will get things done and take everyone else with them. Do you want a vibrant life? A vibrant marriage? If you marry, marry someone who isn’t afraid of her passions. At least you’ll never get bored.
Don’t we all want to be with people who want to be with us? Who would rather want us than need us? Who pull there relational weight so they can want us more? Call me an idealist (I probably am), but isn’t that the whole stupid, freely given point? And if anyone has forgotten, the other option, being single, isn’t all that freaking bad.
Does society really need more people of either gender pretending that the only reason their lives are
“unfulfilled” is because they haven’t “met the right person?” That is complete and utter nonsense. Your life is what you make it, if you have that privilege. As someone who spent years depressed, take it from me: the time you waste wallowing could buy you a happier existence, and fast, fastest if it’s under Christ. But it’s popular to complain, and act as if we don’t know better. I must just not get it.
Of all the things that there are to worry about in the world right now, dating isnt one of them. There is just too much else to use your tears on, and offer prayers for. I’d rather pray for more grace for the people I love than having someone buy me dinner on a Saturday night. At least with God, you’ve got the guarantee that it will last.